Name: The 60/20 Relationship Rule
Author: Joe Delfgauw

A book by Joe DelfgauwMost advice tells you to find your other half. This one tells you to find the right sixty percent.

The 60/20 Relationship Rule is an honest, hard-won guide to building a relationship that actually lasts. It comes from more than twenty years of Joe Delfgauw's own experience and countless conversations with real couples, not from a fairy tale about soulmates.

Available now on Amazon, Kindle edition.

Why the math works when the fairy tale does not.

A relationship that holds up is not two people who are identical, and it is not two people forever chasing a spark. It is a balance. The 60/20 rule puts a number on that balance so you can actually see it.

60Similarity

20Complement

20Uniqueness

Similarity

Shared values, similar dreams, and a way of seeing the world that lines up. This is the foundation. Get it wrong and everything else is patchwork.

Complementarity

The differences that make it interesting. The places where one of you is strong and the other is still growing. Enough friction to keep it alive, not enough to wear it down.

Uniqueness

The room each of you keeps to stay your own person. The part of you that does not belong to the relationship, and should not have to.

An honest look at why the good ones fall apart, and how to keep yours together.

Joe wrote this after going through the relationship wringer himself and then spending years asking other people how theirs really worked. The result is a short, direct book with no guru act. It is about seeing yourself clearly before you go looking for someone else.

Why chasing intensity keeps burning you, and what to reach for instead.

How to know your own values and deal-breakers before you date anyone.

What actually predicts a relationship that lasts, and what only looks like it does.

How to break the excitement and desperation cycle for good.

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One book down. More on the way.

Joe is writing a short series on personal development, each one built the same way as the first: honest, practical, and quick to read. The 60/20 Relationship Rule is out now. Here is what is coming next.

The 60/20 Relationship Rule Available now

Always Grow Personally Coming soon

The Four Me’s Coming soon

Five Frequencies of Happiness Coming soon

The Authenticity Movement Coming soon

Reaching Xanadu Coming soon

Joe Delfgauw

Joe Delfgauw is an entrepreneur, author, and speaker. He has been building businesses since 1996, and spent just as long paying attention to what makes relationships work and what quietly pulls them apart. The 60/20 Relationship Rule is where those two halves of his life meet: a builder's eye for what actually holds up, pointed at the part of life that matters most.